Exploring the Impact of How Men Who Abuse View Their Families

Warning: This article includes mentions of domestic abuse and child abuse. 

This article was first posted on October 19, 2015: 

There has been a growing interest in the area of Domestic Violence locally as a result of a variety of situations including an incident reported this evening that is suspected to be a murder/suicide involving a family in the Phoenix metro area. 

Unfortunately, this type of incident is not rare. These situations are too routinely noted nationwide, as abusive men, in particular, include even their own children into the circle of danger that their mothers live in day to day. Abusive men view both their adult partners and children as items of property they have ownership over as opposed to relationships in which they demonstrate responsible and loving conduct.

Many women who have personally endured the abuse for extended periods of time do find that when their children are targeted by the abuser, they are compelled to take action for the sake of the safety of their children. It is also true that as children get older, the probability that an abusive husband becomes abusive to his children is increasingly likely as well. It is also common for abusive fathers to coerce their children into verbal and physical abuse of their own mothers in fear of becoming the target of their father's rage should they not comply.

It is not unusual for abusive men to fight for the custody of their children, but it is more a matter of principle than one of the conviction to being a responsible father. They simply feel entitled to maintaining ownership of their property and see custody as a right, not a responsibility. Their primary motive is simply to continue to exert influence and control over their former spouses and use their own children as pawns in a manipulative game.